Dear Parents: It’s Not About You
There are no shortage of opinions on family issues lighting up the Internet on any day, but with the Supreme Court announcing recently the hearing of cases on whether gay “marriage” is constitutional, and in the wake of no press coverage for hundreds of thousands marching for life last week, that’s been especially true lately.
One article in particular that’s been getting some good air time, but is receiving just as many scoffs from the gay lobby, appeared on LifeSiteNews.com the other day about four individuals who testified in front of the 5th Circuit Court of Appeals opposing the legalization of same-sex “marriage”. The “quartet of truth,” as they were dubbed, were all raised by homosexual parents, and also advocate for allowing children to only be raised in an environment where a mother and a father both have the chance of being present.
Reading the article will fill in all the details, but the four individuals bring up a startlingly obvious point that, if heeded, would solve many, if not all, family issues.
It’s not about the parents. It’s about the children.
It’s impossible to count the number of times people wishing to adopt children with a partner of the same sex talk about their “right to adopt”, or how many times pro-abortion advocates say women have a “right to their bodies”. Granted, the people in these positions mean incredibly well, and their hearts may well be in the right place, but whenever these points are made, they miss that crucial point — what’s best for the child?
Studies have repeatedly shown overwhelmingly that children thrive most when they’re in a home with two parents of the opposite sex. Many other studies have been telling of the adverse effects of choosing abortion over bringing the pregnancy to term. Women choosing abortion–perhaps claiming to get it out of “love for the child” or something similar–have, as a result of discarding their child, been at a substantially higher risk of developing physical and emotional problems.
These studies and testimonies clearly point out that the best course of action in family life is putting the interests of the children first, and it’s far from being confined to just matters of same-sex unions and abortion.
When it comes to parenting, it shouldn’t matter what the adults think if the child’s well-being isn’t put first. This is true for abortion. This is true for same-sex parenting. This is true for divorce of heterosexual couples. And this is even true of single parent adoptions, in my opinion.
Single moms and dads are not to blame, I want to add. Sometimes, situations that create single-parent homes are the best thing under the circumstances. However, those situations should be considered an exception instead of being touted as the norm.
On top of a child’s fundamental right to life, a child also has a fundamental right to be raised by their mother and father, whether that’s their biological parents, adoptive parents, or a step-parent.
That’s what this conversation should be about. There would be far fewer arguments about who has what “rights” if we considered children first.